BRO I NEED SOME ADVICE
Shoutout Kags for this reminder
But imagine a scenario where your best friend or spouse or family member comes to your advice? How do you talk to them?
Even if they are going through a rough time or made a big mistake, do we just straight yell at them and make them feel worse than they already feel?
Usually not right - we take the approach of giving them grace and actually listening then giving some advice on what they can improve on.
We tend to steer the conversation into what are the solutions in this scenario?
What are the opportunities that this situation can possibly lead to?
What can we learn from this situation?
Or just listening the whole time can even help them feel bit more relaxed
These are usually the advice or things we dive into with our friend when they come to us for advice
But when it comes to our own self talk we usually start with the following
I'm not good enough - i don’t know how i made this mistake
Everything is going to go to shit - nothing is going to work out
If this happens then this will happen - we just start spiraling
Think about all the other negative things that can arise from this situation
You get the point. We AMPLIFY the negative - which is human nature.
And when stuff happens that's normal - nothing wrong with it.
It's the speed of us bouncing back and switching the thought process
So this is something im working on personally and want you to try the next time some random situation pops up
“What advice would you give your best friend and how would you talk to them in this situation?”
That's it and talk like that yourself
If we aren’t our own best friend everyday it will feel like a straight grind.
This literally takes DAILY Practice / reps just like in the gym. Compounds overtime into where we can just bounce back from things much much faster.
It is funny because I use this same approach when talking to a client but forget to talk this way to myself.
Hope this helped
Stay Jacked and Smiling
Rounit